21 Nov 10 Ways to Make Mindful Communication Come Alive
In last week’s session, psychotherapist and mindfulness teacher Brian Shiers shared “10 Ways to Make Mindful Communication Come Alive.”
These powerful and compassionate insights provide practical ways to enhance how we relate to those around us, especially during meaningful moments like the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday!
Below is a summary of the 10 ways to bring mindful communication into your life, offering tools to deepen your connections with others through awareness and kindness.
If you missed it, here’s the link to the video!
The 10 Ways to Bring Mindful Communication to Life
- Know Yourself and Understand Your Deeper Motives
“Why are you speaking? Our unconscious beliefs and assumptions from early life influence how we communicate. Mindfulness allows us to notice and reflect on these patterns.” - Be Flexible with Your Position
“Notice how you might dig in on your stance. Flexibility allows you to explore why something feels so important and opens space for meaningful connection.” - Remind Yourself What You Know About the Other Person
“What do you know about the person you’re speaking with? Their experiences, needs, or fears? Keeping this in mind helps tailor your communication with care.” - Use Nuanced Language Instead of Overgeneralizations
“Avoid hyperbole like ‘always’ or ‘never.’ Using specific, precise language creates a clearer and more compassionate dialogue.” - Set the Other Person’s Nervous System at Ease
“Slow down, speak kindly, and soften your tone. A calm voice can soothe the nervous system, making conversations more productive and connected.” - Stop Trying to Read Minds
“You can’t assume you know what someone is thinking or feeling. Instead, ask with curiosity and openness to ensure you truly understand.” - Validate What the Other Person Says
“Validation doesn’t mean agreement. It’s about authentically acknowledging their perspective. Curiosity can help you find common ground and understanding.” - Reflect on Your Common Humanity
“Remember, we all share the same fundamental needs: safety, connection, autonomy, and meaning. Recognizing this fosters compassion in your communication.” - Practice Loving-Kindness Before Difficult Conversations
“Take a moment to wish the person well. Imagine their happiness and well-being. This mindset shifts your approach and builds goodwill.” - Rehearse Difficult Conversations
“Prepare for hard conversations by rehearsing. Explore your assumptions, refine your language, and practice staying grounded and mindful.”
Why These Practices Matter
Mindful communication is about more than just words—it’s about presence, connection, and care. These 10 ways give us tools to deepen our relationships and approach even challenging conversations with kindness and clarity.
Upcoming Event: December 13th
I hope you can join Brian Shiers for his next session:
“Feeling Body, Emotion Mind: The New Neuroscience of Emotion and How to Use It”
Led by Brian Shiers
Date: Wednesday, December 13th
Time: 9:00 AM – 10:00 AM
Location: kalikazoom.com
This session will explore how the latest neuroscience can help us understand emotions and use them to build resilience and happiness. It’s a fascinating look into how emotions shape our lives and relationships.
The best part of his sessions are the beautiful guided mindfulness practices he facilitates in the beginning and the end.
We hope to see you there!
Let’s practice together!
As we prepare for Thanksgiving next week, I want to wish you and your family days filled with gratitude and mindful connection.
Whether you’re gathering with family, reconnecting with friends, or enjoying quiet time alone, I hope these mindful communication practices help you share your presence and kindness with those around you.
Wishing you love and light always,
