Over the past year, I’ve been learning the art of the tea ceremony, which has become a meaningful part of my mindfulness practice.

Recently, my sensei Satsuki-san introduced me to a collection of teachings called the Rikyu Hyakushu, or “Rikyū’s Hundred Verses.”

Today, we started with the first verse, and its message really stood out to me, so I wanted to share it with you.

The verse says:

This verse serves as a reminder that a willingness to learn is where true progress begins.

Without that desire, learning can feel aimless and unfulfilling.

As parents, we always want what’s best for our children.

We encourage them to explore new things, hoping they’ll discover what they enjoy.

And Rikyū’s wisdom tells us that real learning comes from within.

When our children decide to follow their interests, they’re already guided by their own inner teacher.

Our role is to support them in these moments rather than steer them.

This concept applies to everything they do, whether it’s school, art, or sports.

The willingness to learn is a powerful guide, one that leads them toward meaningful learning experiences.

Simple Ways to Encourage Your Teen’s Willingness to Learn

Here’s a straightforward guide to help your child grow their willingness to learn:

1. Notice What Excites Them
   Watch for the things that naturally catch your child’s attention. Knowing what sparks their interest is a good place to start.
2. Provide the Right Environment
   Give your child the time and space they need to explore their interests without putting pressure on them.
3. Be a Role Model
   Show them your own openness to learning new things. Share with them what you’ve been learning.
4. Welcome Curiosity
   Let your child ask questions freely, and encourage their curiosity. It’s a sign of engagement and growth.
5. Balance Activities
   Avoid overloading your child’s schedule. Leave some free time so they can explore their interests naturally.
6. Appreciate Their Effort
   Celebrate the effort your child puts into learning, regardless of the results. This helps them feel confident and motivated to keep trying.
7. Have Open Conversations
   Talk to your child about what they’re learning. This lets them reflect on their progress and continue building their self-confidence.

By giving our children the space to explore their interests, we help them find their own path to learning, guided by their inner teacher.

I hope to see you cultivate your own willingness to learn at an upcoming mindfulness session!

Let’s practice together!

Chair, Harvard-Westlake Mindfulness Club